It’s that time of year again. Everyone is talking about New Year resolutions. The internet is covered with posts on New Year goals, and friends and family are asking everyone about what they want to stick to for 2017.
Each year you promise yourself that you will do this, and you won’t do that. Then most of us stop.
And if you stop, you feel guilty and beat yourself up for not sticking to it. And the cycle begins again.
Let me share with you a quick story…
Two years ago one of our patients Julie came to see me mid-January and said:
“This year my resolution is that by new years eve I’ll finally be able to set a resolution that’s NOT to lose weight!”
I asked her why she didn’t make a different resolution this year, and Angela said it was because she really, badly needed to lose 2-3 stone first.
“How long have you been setting this resolution for?” I asked, “About 10 years” she said, “I won’t be happy until I lose 2-3 stone, so I’ve really got to stick to it this year.”
Does this kind of resolution sound familiar to you too?
Many of us think getting motivated to reach a goal requires tough-love and setting things we think we should do to fit in to be ‘accepted’, and they usually come from a place of feeling shame or not feeling ‘good enough’.
And it’s not your fault if you do! Fitness and fat-loss are advertised in our faces everywhere.
Despite the fact that these kind of goals have the opposite affect on motivation than we hope, most people continue to set them, and get frustrated when their resolutions have gone out the window come January 8th.
By the time Angela walked into my clinic that day, she had 10 odd years of heavy guilt and shame weighing down her goal to lose weight.
So I flat out told her she was going to find it hard to reach that goal again if she kept the same goal and suggested she make her goal forgiveness for not losing it yet.
“That’s all you want me to do?!” she asked looking confused.
“Yes! That’s all!”
Why? Because year after year when you have the same goal and don’t reach it, each year it becomes harder to believe you’ll ever accomplish it, and each year you feel worse that it goes unaccomplished.
So here’s my big tip for you this year when it comes to your resolutions:
How about we make a pact to be kinder to ourselves instead of setting out on a mission to improve ourselves with goals that if we stumble on and fall over, we beat ourselves up over.
If you find yourself slipping off track with the goals you’ve set – forgive yourself.
You haven’t failed just because it’s mid-January and you’ve already stopped. You can get back on track and pick yourself up.
Of course it’s easier said than done. Being kind to yourself is a difficult thing to do. But while it might take a lot more self-reflection than counting calories and drinking green juices, giving yourself endless chances is the path to successful goal setting in any area of your life.
So have a plan, set mini goals to achieve your overall goal. Celebrate the achievements you make along the way and know it’s ok to slip up, you’re human, I slip up all the time!
All you’ll be far more likely to stick to the healthier habits you’ve set yourself this year.
What goals you’ve set yourself for 2017?
For more tips like this to help you have your best year yet, visit here to read Paul’s book The Healthy Habit http://www.thehealthyhabitbook.com/ Essential reading to help maintain an independent and active life.
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You might know Paul as an expert Columnist who writes weekly health articles for TWO of the North East's biggest daily Newspapers, The Northern Echo And The Hartlepool Mail, he is a regular Speaker at Industry Seminars around the globe and a Radio Personality, often heard on the BBC. Paul has been an expert guest on dozens of Radio shows and regularly interviewed in newspapers, magazines and trade journals all over the world, including the Guardian.
Paul’s background included working extensively in the Premier League with a Top Professional Football Team, and since quitting his job in Professional Football in 2007, his Physio Practice has become the fastest growing in the UK and biggest in the North East. So successful, that companies like BUPA, ASDA, The Vela Group And Coast & Country, repeatedly retain his Physio company's services to keep healthy their own staff and workforce. Paul Gough Physio Rooms is now a large multi-physio, multi clinic speciality practice in Darlington, Durham, Guisborough and Hartlepool.
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